Yoni massage – The massage of the woman’s vagina

The yoni massage is a massage of the woman’s vagina. The word yoni has a lot of meaning but basically means vagina. It is a spiritual massage as it is used to help with healing of the woman. She is allowed to be completely relaxed and pleasured in the hands of her partner. It should be a completely selfless act and is not meant to be foreplay. It should never lead to lovemaking but kept as a separate thing.

Yoni massage

The beginnings of a yoni massage are very like the beginnings of any massage. The woman needs to feel completely relaxed and comfortable in her environment. She may wish to have a bath or shower to start with, to enable her to relax and feel ready. She may like a darkened room and she will need something soft to lie on. Candles and essential oils could be used to create a soothing atmosphere as well.
There should be a meditative atmosphere where the couple will breathe together. They should take breaths together at the very beginning and then when possible have eye contact and take time to breath together during the massage.
The woman starts off lying on her front. She needs to be naked. It is a safe position for her and you start by warming so oil between the palms and then smoothing it over her back and arms and legs. This will help her to relax. This tantric massage should be extremely soft and gentle. The touch is supposed to be as light as possible and the masseuse should use their hands to guide them. Allow the hands to feel their way over the body, doing what feels right and trying not to be led by what the woman wants.
When the time feels right the woman can turn over. This should be something that she decides on as it can be quite daunting for her to reveal herself by turning over. Even if you are a close couple, it is a new situation and it can be difficult. No pressure should be put on her, things need to move along at the rate that she needs them to.
When she turns over put pillows under her knees and then breathe together. Ask her to verbally express any concerns she has and do not pressure her to move forward if she is not ready. She may need time to think through emotions first.
Once she is ready you can begin to massage her body from her toes to head, including arms, breasts and tummy. This can go on for as long as she wishes. Once her body feels relaxed then it is time to ask her if she is ready to progress to the yoni massage. This decision is completely hers.
The yoni massage starts externally. The hands should be well oiled and then used to massage the mound of the yoni allowing some of the warm oil to drip down on to the outer lips. The outer lips can now be massaged as well, but be sure to be a gentle as possible. The more gentle you are, the more pleasurable it is. At this point it is important to feel fully connected with the woman, concentrate on your breathing and take as much time as she needs. Keep her talking so you know that you are helping her.
Once she is ready to go on, you can start to gently squeeze together the outer lips and slide the fingers from end to end. Then do this with the inner lips. Let her tell you if the pressure you are using is too much or too little but try to concentrate on breathing and giving pleasure rather than talking.
Once she is ready you can move on and stroke the clitoris. It is important to remember how sensitive this is and that it should only be touched very gently. Stroke in gentle circles and then very softly squeeze it and breathe together.
Now it is time to enter her. Firstly place one hand on her heart and the other on her mound and breathe together. Ask permission to enter her. Using the middle finger gently enter her yoni and allow her to pull you inside. Gently massage the inside with the finger. Take your time and breathe together and continue to circle inside her using different speeds, pressure and depth.
With your palm up it is now time to find the g-spot. Move the figer gently back and forth and you will feel a soft spongy area. If the woman has not been touched there before she may find the sensation a bit strange. If it is uncomfortable then do what you can to ease that discomfort and then gently massage it in a circular motion.
Then move gently around the yoni as if exploring a clock face. Start at the g-spot which is 12 o’clock and gently massage inwards, breathing together. The woman may experience pain, pleasure, a need to urinate or nothing. Allow her to work through those feelings, although if painful, reduce the pressure. Ask her to take a deep breath and hold it and then release the pain and emotion with it as she exhales. When she is ready you can move to the next spot which would be one o’clock. Work all around the yoni at her pace.
As you finish, hold eye contact and breathe together as you gently remove your finger. Be close, hold each other and cuddle. Give her food or drink if she needs it to regain energy and stay with her as long as she needs you to.